Why Sex Before Marriage Is the Moral Thing to Do
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“People with active sex lives live longer.” That doesn’t explain why ascetics are some of the longest-lived people throughout history. Indeed, ascetics have, throughout history, lived longer than the average age of mortality for the rest of their demographic groups.
“We know that…there are lots of benefits to marrying later and to gender-egalitarian marriages Couples who both work outside the home and also share housework duties have more sex. Financially independent, college-educated women who marry later in life have extremely low divorce rates.”
True. But none of this speaks to the issue of premarital sex: i.e., the writer makes no correlation between “working outside the home” and premarital sex, or financially-independent college-educated women who marry later in life” and premarital sex. Thus, the writer’s tacit attempt to link premarital sex to low divorce rates is unsupported.
“You really can’t tell if you’re sexually compatible unless you have sex.” This is probably the biggest canard of all. If sex is the ONLY issue – i.e. for those who are simply into sex for sex’ sake – then perhaps this is true. Otherwise, it is a wholly insupportable claim. Indeed, I can give at least one example of the opposite. I once asked a female friend of mine (ironically, a financially-independent, college graduate in her late 20s), a devout Christian, the same question when she said she was going to wait until marriage before she had sex. I asked, How do you know the sex will be good? Her answer made a great deal of sense: “Ian, if two people have learned to love each other, and share a foundation of honesty and trust, compassion and affection, humor and all the other things that matter most, how could the sex be BAD?” Note that she followed her own prescription, and has been happily married for over 25 years.
Despite being a Christian and a minister, I am not a puritan by any means. But I find articles like this – which make numerous claims that are either unsupported or outright false – to be unhelpful at best, and misguided at worst.
Peace.
Posted on 27-Sep-12 at 8:02 pm | PermalinkI disagree with your female friend. That may be her position. It is certainly not the only one.
Posted on 28-Sep-12 at 9:53 am | PermalinkPeace