[Mb-hair] also it would be nice if people commenting onthe60sactually remem

[Robin McNamara]

Right on sweetheart :)

Love forever
Robin





----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Little Birdie" <lbirdie at hotmail.com>
To: <mb-hair at islandlists.com>
Sent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 4:45 PM
Subject: Re: [Mb-hair] also it would be nice if people commenting 
onthe60sactually remem


> Richard,
>
> I am afraid I must disagree strongly with your assertion that those who 
> remember the sixties, or have seen the original production are more 
> qualified to speak on these issues. By that logic I, being older than you 
> and having seen the original production many more times than you, and 
> having even been in it way back when, would be more qualified than you to 
> have an opinion here. Obviously I do not have more of a right to my 
> opinion than you do - we all are qualified to speak to what makes Hair 
> work for us. That someone doesn't remember the sixties, or only remembers 
> it slightly, does not make their opinion any more or less valid than those 
> who were there then. I saw the original production hundreds of times  - 
> eight times a week when I worked as the concession girl. Does that make my 
> opinion more important? Does my having been in the show in 1973 make it 
> even more so? In my humble opinion it does not.
>
> There is another point you make (in a different email, but I speak to it 
> here to conserve bandwidth) that I feel I must comment on. You say:
>
>>i am not being hostile and i dont care for how whenever someone dissents 
>>it is interpreted as hostility
>
> I truly do not agree with you that people here respond to any disagreement 
> by interpreting it as hostility. While I completely understand that you do 
> not feel that your way of dialoging is hostile, I know that this problem 
> comes up with such regularity that I hope you can come to accept that 
> people here do interpret your style of disagreement as hostile. I accept 
> that you do not feel that you were being hostile, but if you are going to 
> be a member of a group you have to find a way to respect the general 
> values of that group, whether you agree with them or not. So while I 
> accept that you do not feel that the way your disagree with people is 
> hostile I would encourage you to accept that in the general value system 
> of this group your style of writing feels hostile to many of us. There is 
> no judgment inherent in this - we are not wrong for feeling this, and you 
> are not wrong for feeling you are not hostile. But if you want to be a 
> member of this group you will need to communicate your thoughts in a way 
> that isn't interpreted as argumentative by the group. In certain cultures 
> things that we wouldn't think twice about doing are considered very rude. 
> If you were traveling in a different culture I would hope that you would 
> make an effort to adapt your behavior to the societal rules of that 
> culture. Think of this as a situation like that. Even if you feel that we 
> are completely wrong to interpret you as hostile I encourage you to write 
> in a style that opens discussion instead of causing argument.
>
> I have made every effort to write about these things in a way that 
> stresses that this is only my opinion. Please note that I understand that 
> you feel you do nothing wrong in these situations. Please show me (and 
> others) the respect that I have tried to show you in this post. For 
> instance: By all means tell Jim why you feel it is better to update 
> certain portions of Hair, and allow him to tell you why he disagrees. But 
> when you turn it into a discussion of why your opinion is more valid than 
> his that tends to be interpreted as hostile, and I ask as the moderator 
> here that you don't post things like that.
>
> Nina
>
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